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The relationship between the husband and wife is a very tender, loving
and pure relationship. They are in reality the "garb" of
one another. Thus, it is the duty of each to be protective over the life,
property and modesty of one another. It is necessary for
them to realise and understand their mutual duties as a couple. They are two
bodies joined by the soul.
The Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) has stated that if a husband was
pleased and content with his wife when she
passed away, then she will enter Paradise. The explanation of one Hadith is that
if a husband passes the night displeased with
his wife, she invokes upon herself the Curse of Allah and the Angels. In another
hadith, the Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi
wasallam) said, "If I had commanded prostration for any other than Allah, I
would have commanded the wife to make
Sajdah to the husband." However, since Sajdah is none but for Allah, a woman
cannot prostrate to her husband but she
should be obedient towards him.
The husband is the provider and protector of his wife. He should thus fulfill
her needs and keep her pleased. "The best from
amongst you is he who is best to his wife." (Hadith) If there is a conflict, the
husband should not be hasty to give her Talaaq
(Divorce), but should cool his temper, think carefully and take the opinion of
elders before making any decisions as Talaaq is
not something which is liked. The Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) has
stated: "From those actions that are Halaal,
the most disliked is Talaaq."
The wife should also be patient with the husband. She should show her
gratitude for anything that he does. She should
understand him and not be lavish with his wealth. She should always be neatly
attired and loving. She should love and respect
his family. That house in which there is daily conflict is living hell and that
home in which there is love and respect is a blessed
home.
The Laws of Shari'ah: If a man passes away, the wife may give him Ghusal, but
the husband cannot give his deceased wife
Ghusal, nor can he touch her deceased body without a cloth. He can, however, see
her face. It is common in the public that the
husband cannot carry the wife's Janazah or lower her into the grave. This is
false. He may see her face, carry her Janazah and
lower her into the grave.
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